How to Re-focus on YOU

I remember this moment when I realised as a new mom that all I talked about was my son...

Even with my sister because she, as a loving auntie, wanted to hear about him... she would talk about what was going on for her and I would talk about... my baby.

And at that point I started to feel frustrated.

I also wanted to share about other parts of me, but I wasn’t really allowing myself, my identity as a mother was taking over.

And people around me where all talking to the mother in me, she was praised, she was validated, she was expected... so she was running the show.

But what about the funny, sexy, vibrant woman inside?

She didn't feel ok to be there anymore.

I have spent almost a decade now navigating those identity shifts that come with motherhood and only in the last few years I have been able to reclaim what it means to me to be whole, to be fully myself in all my roles and expressions.

I am a mother YES (absolutely loving it)

AND I am also so much more! And so are YOU!

Why is it still so hard to find this balance in our lives? Why so many mothers struggle with guilt and perfectionism? Why do we forget that to be nurturing mothers we need to nurture ourselves first?

And sometimes it takes the form of a solo trip abroad to reconnect with your adventurer self
or a romantic gateway with your partner without the kids
or learning to play the Ukulele, starting your own podcast, writing a book
or even building a business.

If you are feeling like you are not doing enough for yourself right now try this simple clarity practice:

Step 1:
Take a moment, close your eyes, place one hand on your heart and one on your lower belly (wisdom lives here ;-) and take a few deep breaths to ground yourself.

Step 2:
Then ask yourself:
“Am I focusing on my child/children instead of me to avoid facing something? If yes, what is it?”

“If I was free of worries, what would I want to do that excites me?”

Step 3:
Listen for the answer flowing in and journal the answers. Then chose one action step that you will take today to start moving in that direction.

Step 4:
Now go do that ;)
You've got this!



PS: Let me know how it goes for you if you try it! Or how do you feel about it?
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